“Holding on to anger is like grasping a hot coal
with the intent of throwing it at someone else
You are the one who gets burned” –Buddha
Isn’t it so true ?? When we get angry with someone , we are the ones who are burning from inside with anger. We feel that if we forgive that person then we will be doing that person a favor but the reality is that if we just let it go and forgive the person we are angry with then we will be doing OURSELVES the biggest favor. At the end self love is the greatest love so we can always do ourselves this favor
I remember during our Vipassana course , S.N Goenka ji used to tell us this lesson – A lot of times one person says to another “For whatever bad things you have done to me, I won’t forget it/you for my lifetime” and Goenka ji would ask ” Arre bhai kiska nuksaan karoge agar zindagi bhar yaad rakhoge ? (Who will be at loss if you remember it for your lifetime?)”.
We don’t realize but we are the ones who suffer when we hold on to anger. Sometimes the person we are angry with doesn’t even know what we are going through but we continue to burn ourselves with anger. I know anger is a really powerful emotion and it tends to take complete control of you but if we become conscious of our anger and know that it will for our good to let it go then it will definitely help. Its a slow process but works.
Its very natural to forget about these philosophies when we are angry but if we can remind ourselves of it once in 10 times, its still good