Jun 3rd, 2010, 07:33am
“Holding on to anger is like grasping a hot coal
with the intent of throwing it at someone else
You are the one who gets burned”
Isn’t it so true ?? When we get angry with someone , we are the ones who are burning from inside with anger. We feel that if we forgive that person then we will be doing that person a favor but the reality is that if we just let it go and forgive the person we are angry with then we will be doing OURSELVES the biggest favor. At the end self love is the greatest love so we can always do ourselves this favor
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I remember during our Vipassana course , S.N Goenka ji used to tell us this lesson - A lot of times one person says to another “For whatever bad things you have done to me, I won’t forget it/you for my lifetime” and Goenka ji would ask ” Arre bhai kiska nuksaan karoge agar zindagi bhar yaad rakhoge
? (Who will be at loss if you remember it for your lifetime?)”.
We don’t realize but we are the ones who suffer when we hold on to anger. Sometimes the person we are angry with doesn’t even know what we are going through but we continue to burn ourselves with anger. I know anger is a really powerful emotion and it tends to take complete control of you but if we become conscious of our anger and know that it will for our good to let it go then it will definitely help. Its a slow process but works.
Its very natural to forget about these philosophies when we are angry but if we can remind ourselves of it once in 10 times, its still good
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June 7th, 2010 at 1:36 am
Hi Shweta..completely agree with you on this…just let go & forgive..else we will continue burning ourselves…
One should learn from small children..they fight and next day they are friends again!!
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June 7th, 2010 at 8:52 am
Anger is what we should really avoid, i am totally agree with your statements, if we carry the same thoughts of anger or revenge then we will be in loss and we’ll be kinda loosing our energy of which we gonna get nothing. So it’s better to get that out from the mind.
But one thing i would like to say here is sometimes in our life anger gives some relief also, like if you are in depression then it is better to throw your anger, This will give you some relief.
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June 8th, 2010 at 4:50 am
Hi Shweta..Completely agree..It is very true that when we get anfry we forget everting/everyone in those such momments and most imporatanly we forget ourselves.But i think it’s a human nature as whenever something goes against our wish,we get depressed and it comes out in form of anger so it is up to us only how soon we forget it and overcome it.
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June 8th, 2010 at 11:57 am
its true i completly agree
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June 8th, 2010 at 12:00 pm
but what iff you are angry by yourself, for me not possible to forgive ourself.
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June 19th, 2010 at 3:20 am
i dont agree with Vijay.. :-).. i feel it is easy to forgive by yourself
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July 3rd, 2010 at 6:56 pm
Hi
Dont get angry from within but just show because some time it is necessary for others to learn their mistakes and they dont repeat again. This way you do not disturb your self from within and at the same time you teach others a lesson.
sudesh
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July 15th, 2010 at 10:21 am
Hi Shweta I liked the way you have explained the anger hope it has work with everyone
Our society does not allow us to express strong emotions. We are taught to hold in our emotions from the earliest age. This can have a profoundly negative effect on our overall health. It’s not wrong to express anger, fear, sadness, rage. In fact, it is healthy to release these emotions regularly. What’s wrong is when we hurt someone in the process. It is preferable to find safe ways to dump the negative feelings.
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August 9th, 2010 at 9:36 pm
hi shweta ji
i liked the way u have elaborated ur thoughts abt anger….
i completely agree wid u ,itz true
bt iam the one who is very short tempered
bt this blog helped me a lot to control my anger………..
keep writing ………
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August 13th, 2010 at 12:20 am
great words dear Shweta…
thank you
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