If not everyday then couple of times a week I learn new lessons. Lot of times they are not worth a big blog post but I would still love to share with you all. So I have decided to start a new series “What I learnt today “. Here goes the first one-
“Problems have nothing to do with situations, but with one’s reaction to them.
“What’s happening is merely what’s happening. How you feel about it is another matter.
A lot of times we face problems and our immediate reaction is to have the situation responsible for it. It just satisfies our ego to have a situation/person wrong and prove itself right. Situation is there but how we interpret it and make stories make all the difference
For eg It’s raining
–The story you tell yourself “Its a miserable day”
My spouse didn’t give me a gift on our anniversary
– The story you tell yourself – “He/she doesn’t love me anymore”
I lost money in gambling
– The story you tell yourself – “I am the one unlucky person ”
Situation and your thoughts about it are two very different things. If you accept the situation as it is and control your thoughts about it, you will see you are controlling your problems. The realization that “My thoughts about the situation are creating problems and not the situation ” will set you free. The best part is that you might not be able to control the situation but you can surely control your thoughts.
Ofcourse its much easier said than done but for sure doable
Disclaimer : This post has been inspired by “Power Of Now” by Eckart Tolle . I highly recommend his books.