From being a victim to a winner

It happens with almost all of us that something undesirable happens and we start finding  reasons to blame things on other people , situation or circumstances. It somehow gives us a kind of consolation. We think of so many reasons as why it happened to us and then we stick to couple of them  that we find most convincing. We  often  love to think and talk about our victim  story. Lets see how our victim self thinks and talks -

– I cannot find a job because job market is bad.( ==> I will not find a job)

– I am not getting promotion at work because my manager doesn’t like me. (==>I will not get a promotion)

–  I am unhappy in my life because my girl friend dumped me and I lost my job.(==> I will stay unhappy)

– I cannot top this year because everybody in my batch is more intelligent than I am. (==> I will not get top position)

– My venture cannot succeed because my team is  not good enough and market is bad. (==> My venture will not succeed)

– If you cant think of any reason and you will simply think that your luck is bad. (==> I will wait for my luck to get better)
When you blame things on others , it makes you feel like a victim. You feel weak and powerless. You feel like a victim to your destiny and life. Its fine to think of reasons but  if you take the responsibility of everything that happens to you instead of blaming things on other people and circumstances you will feel immense power which will turn you from  a victim to  a winner. There is  a lot of difference between taking the blame on you and taking the responsibility. You never have to blame yourself for what is happening to you.

You don’t have the control on what happens with you but what distinguish a winner from a loser is how you react to what happens with you. You have the complete control on how you react to things. Taking  the responsibility makes you action oriented. You know its you who has to do something about it instead of waiting for situation or your luck to change.You will see your mind working toward the solution, towards making you a winner.You will be amazed with the power of your mind when you really want it to work for you.

Lets see when you take the responsibility ,how your winner mind will  think in the above situations

– Job market is bad and I have to work harder to get  a job.

– My manager doesn’t like me much , I have to put extra efforts to get appreciated by him and others.

–  Now that my girl friend is not with me and I have lost my job, I have to find another girl friend and a job Tongue out

– There is very tough competition in the class, I have to work really hard to be on the top position

– I have to find better people for my team and modify my business plan as per the current market  for my venture to succeed.

–Tough times don’t last but tough people do.

Next time when you see yourself thinking or talking about  your victim story, end it right away. Irrespective of what situation you are in, take the responsibility of your life, take the charge of your life and be a winner !!

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20 Responses to From being a victim to a winner

  1. Anuj Mehta says:

    Very well written. It’s very inspiring “Tough times don’t last but tough people do”.

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  2. Ramesh says:

    i enjoyed reading this post….extremely well written…

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  3. laxmi says:

    Excllent,its very inspiring.

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  4. Very well Said…

    Tough times don’t last but tough people do.

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  5. ash_Doc says:

    very inspiring indeed. am gonna make this page my stumbleupon favourite..

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  6. Rutvik says:

    Hi Shweta,
    I have been following your blog for quite some time and find it quite interesting. Can you increase the frequency of your posts to atleast one post a week (I can understand that you might be too much busy with your work but consider this as a request :) )

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    shweta Gupta reply on September 29th, 2009 10:41 am:


    I thought I would be more frequent but looks like I just write when I have something to write and I feel like writing. I would try my best to be more frequent.

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  7. rishi says:

    Hi shweta,
    I,just luckily,came across your blog.I am gradually becoming fan of yours.Its written so simple yet so effective.I am trying to follow those things to make life more beautiful..thankss..

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  8. Manish says:


    Your blogs are very impressive and one gets hooked on once you start reading them.

    One can feel Good positive energy and positive vibration through your blogs….

    Thank you and please continue blogging…

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  9. Rahul Jain says:

    your blog is indeed very interesting and spell binding..
    I m not a very blog person, i landed up here while searching for beautiful life quotes :P
    You really write very well, Keep Writing!!

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  10. rahull singh says:

    nicely done…

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  11. shweta Gupta says:

    Thanks Anuj, Pandu, Ramesh, Lakshmi, Bijay, Ash_doc , Rutwik, Rishi, Manish, Ankit, Rahul and Rahul singh for kind words. Its always good to see that you enjoy the posts :)

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  12. Anubhash says:

    Ispirational… I appreciate your way of writing.

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  13. Selva says:

    Great, Very Nice to read and follow

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  14. arun aravind says:

    hey sweta , i just stumbled apon your page and made me feel good. ur words are simple.

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  15. Devesh says:

    Read a number of your posts, and greatly admire your style of writing as well as the content.

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  16. Freedo says:

    Hiiiii Shweta,

    Your blog is indeed very interesting and spell binding..
    I m not a very blog person, I landed up here while searching for beautiful life quotes.
    You r too good .. you really write so well,
    Keep it up !!
    Kudos 2 u !!

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  17. shweta says:

    i m shweta,i read all those articles what u hav written here. its so inspiring and true facts of life…
    By writing this u r conveying very important messages to teenagers,youngsters and others…

    I love to read ur blogs that i feel that its very relevent to life…

    keep writing… bye..

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