Some time back I learnt a very nice theory.. If you realy think about it , it will make lottsa sense

This is how it goes …(excerpted from Habit 1: Be Proactive, in The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People, by Stephen R. Covey)


We each have a wide range of concerns - our health, our family, problems at work etc., and it is these things that make up our ‘Circle of Concern’. As we look at the things within our Circle of Concern, it becomes apparent that there are some things over which we have no real control and others that we can do something about. We can group the things we can do something about within a ‘Circle of Influence’. The two circles are shown below:

The Circle of Concern is filled with the have’s:

  • ‘If only I had a more patient spouse…’

  • ‘If only I had better employees/co-workers…’

  • ‘If only I had a boss who wasn’t so demanding…’

The Circle of Influence is filled with the be’s:

  • ‘I can be more patient…’

  • ‘I can be a better employee…’

  • ‘I can be more wise…’

Effective people focus their efforts in their Circle of Influence and do not get stressed or waste time on the things within their Circle of Concern. They work on the things they can do something about and the nature of their energy is positive and enlarging. There are things (like the weather) that our Circle of Influence will never include. We can’t change the weather, but we can create and carry our own physical or social weather with us. We must accept the things that at the present we can’t control and focus our efforts on the things that we can.

The Circle of Influence grows and shrinks. The more you work within your Circle of Influence the larger it will become and you will be become more effective as a result. The opposite is also true. Focusing on your Circle of Concern can shrink your Circle of Influence and therefore your ability to change things for the better.

So guys to be happy

* Dont work on things that lie outside your influence

* Put all your energies on things inside circle of influence and try to increase it

* Identify what lies inside circle of influence and what inside circle of concern

Try this for 30 days and trust me you will feel the difference :)

Stay positive and keep smiling like :)

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